There’s the old expression: “A happy wife, a happy life.”

Is that what’s best? 

How about a wise wife. Shouldn’t wisdom be what we seek/crave more than any other thing. I say yes. King Solomon lived out the importance of wisdom.  Men, we won’t grab I believe without the wisdom of our wives.  They do make us better.

Husbands, I find more and more often to be true, have a huge impact on the success, failure and emotional vitality of their wives.

I know several women currently going through some very difficult decisions, situations and the like all because of unwise, secretive and selfish decisions of their husbands.  Then, when they supposedly come clean, the husbands very much don’t or didn’t.

We see the Jon and Kate fiasco.  This week, a major league ball player came home 3x the legal limit and got into a domestic dispute with his wife.

This seems to be the inherent hampster wheel for so many marriages. Men doing their thing, all too often, not nurturing their mate/life partner, having a different life outside the home, involving extracurriculars, and the it all blows up.

I ask, what is better or best: a happy wife or a wise wife?

What happened to the commitment and stick-to-it-ive-ness talked about at the altar on the big day. We can even focus on our wedding day on happiness, when it should be a distant second to wisdom.  Wisdom that will mold and make us for life.

Clark Kellogg’s message at our breakfast on Tuesday about the wisdom of his wife, Rosey, and what she brings to the table, greatly challenged me.  Kara is “a treasure” (as a friend calls his wife) and adds much to me and seems to put more on the table, and take very little in life.

I can hardly think of a week go by, when there wasn’t something she said, didn’t say, did or didn’t do, that speaks to this truth.

This connection was made a bit more apparent when she gave a little speech Tuesday night and encouraged me. I’m much better with her than without.  I should act, think and live life like that is true.  I’m guilty of not appreciating that enough and tapping into her as a resource.

Shame on me.  I want to do better. Guys, will you join me?